Happiness is an interesting thing. It's something that comes easy to me almost to the point of fault. It has in the past pushed everything else out creating an in balance of emotion because with only happiness you can not feel the depth of everything else in life. I always relate it to a painters pallet. Though you can paint a picture with just yellow, using all it's wonderful tones but eventually your perception is limited. However if you add blue and red you suddenly are able to experience the world. Completely. My life is more fulfilling having the ability and strength to experience a whole range of emotion. They each have thier purpose and the give me my ability to experinece empathy to the degree that I do.
It still doesn't hurt to be happy the majority of the time as long as you are not suppressing other emotions that may pop-up for you. Within that suppression can come depression. Here are some basic steps to happiness and maintaining it ( I have NO idea why I am writing this today- i blame the coffee I had WOO WEEEE):
- Never regret the decisions you make though. Just live by the 3 C's of life: choices chances, and changes. You need to make a choice to take a chance or your life will never change.
- Follow your gut
- Make enough money to meet your basic needs: food, shelter, and clothing. In North America that magic number is $40,000 a year. Any money you make beyond that will not necessarily make you happier.Oodles of money didn't make them any happier. Once you make enough money to support your basic needs, your happiness is not significantly affected by how much money you make, but by your level of optimism.
- Comfort may increase with your salary, but comfort isn't what makes people happy. It makes people bored. That's why it's important to push beyond your comfort zone to fuel your growth as a person.
- Our relationships with our friends and family have a far greater impact on our happiness than our jobs do.
- Find happiness in the job you have now. If you have a positive outlook, you will make the best of any job, and if you have good relationships with people, you won't depend on your job to give your life a greater sense of meaning. You'll find it in your interactions with the people you care about. Now that doesn't mean you shouldn't aspire towards a job that will make you happier; it means you should understand that the capacity of your job to make you happy is quite small in comparison to your outlook on life and your relationships with people
- Smile. Science suggests that when you smile, whether you feel happy or not, your mood will be elevated.
- Forgive. An attitude of forgiveness contributed to better cardiovascular health. You could say that forgiveness literally heals your heart. While it is unknown how forgiveness directly affects your heart, the study suggests that it may lower the perception of stress.
- Forming friendships based on mutual interests and beliefs (and meeting consistently based on that mutual bond) is what makes the difference.
What is your relationship to happiness?